There are so many things that I want to give my son. I thought that this sentiment would be that of my friends and acquaintances, but their concern was more surface. I remember the first time someone said it, “You don’t want your son to have fro hair like yours, do you?” My hopes of looking at him and seeing the best parts of me, of us, sharing the same barber, of people saying “you’re your daddy’s son’, were suddenly being diluted to a standard of attractiveness that was the antithesis of me.
Meeting the parents is a big deal in any culture. For South Asians, it’s essentially a prelude to getting engaged. You’re telling your parents that this is the person you can expect me to marry and it’s typically met with anticipation that a big fat Indian wedding is forthcoming for the family.
We often think of colorism as causing pain to only dark-skinned people that society views as lower in worth, less attractive, and more criminal than lighter-skinned people. However, this couldn't be further from the truth. Scarred on the inside is contributor Keisha Matthews' recollection of how colorism affected her family while growing up.